30 Truths for the Christian Wife. . .

We have all met them--that couple who has been married for an indeterminable amount of years and still seem to be madly in love. What is their secret? Does he still bring her candy and flowers? Possibly. Yet, in most cases, it is more in the way the woman treats her husband that has a direct reflection on their happiness and the way he in return treats her.

God created Soul Mates. Because of the shortcomings of our human nature, His Word very clearly teaches couples how they are to treat one another. 

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Be subject to you husband. . .

"Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. 24 But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything."  Ephesians 5: 22-24

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Did you just roll your eyes?
​Women today are so confused about their place in the scheme of things. Being subject to our husband does not mean we are beneath him or less important than him. It means that we are covered by his love and protection. Just as Christ covers the church, so our husbands cover us.

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1. Follow his lead. If you want your husband to take his rightful place as leader of your marriage, you must be willing to follow. Remember the old saying: If you want him to be more of a man, try being more of a woman.
2.  Always be patient, kind and understanding.
3. Discuss, don’t argue. Be the first to forgive. Don’t let the sun go down on your anger. Don’t rehash it the next day.

4. Follow his advice.
5. Don’t whine and complain. Do not nag.  Nagging belittles your husband and turns you into a shrew. 
6. Do not interrupt or correct him. It is rude and condescending.
7. Take pride in making your home a place of comfort and a haven of rest.
8. Be content with the lifestyle your husband provides.
9. Be considerate of his wishes. 
10. Resist manipulation to get your way.

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Respect your husband. . .

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"Nevertheless, each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself, and the wife must see to it that she respects her husband." Ephesians 5:33

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Respect is all wrapped up in the traditional marriage vows. Love, honor, and obey may seem old fashioned to some, and completely out of the question for others. However, these vows are a promise that you offer in respect to one another. For those of you who refuse to make this sort of vow to your soul mate, please think about this: you simply cannot keep promises that you are not willing to make. Thankfully, it is never too late to change your attitude.

1. Always pray for your husband. Forgive his shortcomings.
2. Encourage him in all things. Never criticize him.
3. Support him in all things. 
4. Be appreciative of him. Remember to say “Thank You.”
5. Understand his need for daily “down time.”
6. ​Be enthusiastic about his thoughts, plans and ideas.
7. Stand in unity with him.
8. Never belittle him to others, including your friends, your children, or your mother.
9. Never air your disputes in public.
10. In front of others, treat him in such a manner that others consider him to be blessed to have a wife like you.

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Treat your husband like a dog?!?

Sandra Dee and Bobby Darin played in a movie called "If a Man Answers.  When Sandra Dee asked her mother for marriage advice, her mother gave her a book about how to treat your dog. Sandra used the advice to "teach her husband" and rewarded him by doing such things as rubbing him behind his ears. The idea being that most women treat their dogs better than they treat their husbands.  

1. Make time to give him your undivided attention. Look into his eyes, really listen to what he is saying.
2. Smile at him. Allow your love and admiration to shine in your gaze.
3. Speak words of endearment to him. Brag on him. 
4. Touch is important to every living creature. Soothe his brow, stroke his arm, hold his hand.
5. Be physically responsive to his romantic overtures. 
6. Say “I love you” at every opportunity. Say it with truth and emotion. Always say it when parting—over the phone, leaving for work,-- you never, ever know if this is the last time you will see or speak to one another.
7. Kiss him goodbye. Make sure you are on his mind when he meets other women throughout the day. Kiss him hello. Give him something to look forward to. Remember he is your husband, your soul mate, not your child.
8. Dress to please him and only him in public and at home. If he likes a particular color on you, make sure you wear it often.
9. Prepare his favorite foods on a regular basis.
10. Court him. Cherish him. 

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Remember, if you don’t treat your man like a king, there is always another woman who is more than willing to.